Dear ISP Family,
From the moment I was informed of Kyle’s death, my family and I were, and continue to be, embraced by the arms of the Illinois State Police.
I believe most spouses of law enforcement officers create an invisible wall to block thoughts of what could happen. I was no different. I understood and accepted the risks so Kyle could work his dream job, although not really thinking anything would happen. On the morning of November 26, 2012, that wall came crashing down. It left me with the sickening reality that Kyle is not coming home. I know he would have done everything in his power to remain with me and our children; however, he simply did not have a choice. In the words of a friend, "everything went perfectly wrong."
My hope for all of you, Kyle’s law enforcement family, is that you move forward with your lives and careers with a new found appreciation for life. Be grateful for each day God brings you safely home to your families. As for me and my children, we too will move forward. Think twice about your own mortality. Don’t take it for granted; it will humble you.
Most importantly, remember you are part of an amazing family. Director Grau and the men and women of the ISP have gone above and beyond, both personally and professionally, to guide me and my children through this transition and to give Kyle the good-bye he richly deserved. The ISP Honor Guard was perfectly organized and professional, yet sincere. I know many of them stood watch with a heavy heart. I was honored to have them lead Kyle on his last journey. The motorcycles, squad cars, and officers from near and far were breathtaking, and Kyle’s rider-less motorcycle led them graciously on that last ride. Our dearest friends in the ISP, and out of state Troopers and local law enforcement we have never met, made Kyle’s send-off absolutely incredible. So whether you stood watch for my husband or sent loving thoughts and prayers our way, I thank you. As Kyle’s brother, Kenny, said at the funeral, Kyle was all about "lights and sirens" and the good-bye he was given, although much too soon, was perfect.
I pray that wall will never again come crashing down on the ISP. However, should that happen, I hope each of you will find peace in knowing that our families will be embraced and their loved one’s memory will be forever honored.
Sarah, Kaylee, and Camden Deatherage